Grandparents are the self proclaimed experts when it comes to raising kids, and with good reason. You’ve been there, done that, and survived to tell the tale. Unfortunately, your own kids might not want to hear it.
Sure, you had certain rules and routines for your family that clearly were successful. I mean, look how well your kids turned out as a result!
Yet despite your proven track record in the child rearing department, your children may not follow exactly in your parenting footsteps. Part of this may be due to lifestyle choices and circumstances.
There are, however, a few other reasons that might mean you parent their children (i.e. your grandchildren) a bit differently to them, which are typically a little more generational.
New parents often have this perfect picture of what their children will be like painted in their minds. Naturally they will be excellent sleepers, eaters, and be exceptionally well behaved all the time.
Anyone who has actually raised children will quietly chuckle and shake their heads at the very thought. That’s because with age not only comes wisdom, but also perspective.
The reality is, kids are kids, and that doesn’t always look the way we want it to. However, with your understanding and experience, you have learned to appreciate a child’s shortcomings more than your younger self may have.
You’re not the disciplinarian (aka you get to do the fun stuff!)
There’s no doubt about it, being a parent is HARD WORK!!!
It’s thrilling, it’s exhausting, and sometimes it means that you have to play the role of the bad guy. It’s no one’s favorite part of the job, but it comes with the territory nonetheless.
Fast forward, and now that you’ve successfully navigated the ups and downs of parenting your own children, you get to reap the rewards as a grandparent. What that means is that you don’t have to deal with those not so pleasant parts that come with raising kids.
So while mom and dad have to say no, you get to say yes!!
Well, within reason obviously. To you, if your grandson or daughter wants a cookie before dinner, that’s okay. Sure bedtime is at 7, but maybe they can stay up a little later since Grandma is here.
Because the burden of parenting does not rest solely on your shoulders, you get to focus on the magic that is being a kid. Does that mean that you might spoil them a little bit? Maybe, but after all, what are grandparents for?
You’ve already been through the rough spots
You probably still remember the endless sleepless nights worrying about your children, anxiously wondering if they were happy, and what you could do to love them better. Now look at them! All of the blood, sweat and tears poured into ensuring your kids had the best possible upbringing has paid off. As a result, you now have a front row seat to watch them do the exact same thing.
Becoming a grandparent means that you’ve been there and done that. You’ve done the middle of the night wake ups, the broken windows and broken arms. Nothing else could possibly surprise you at this point!
That’s another one of the great joys of being a grandparent. When your granddaughter breaks a candy dish, you know just how to handle the situation. If your grandson falls and twists his arm, you have the experience to be able to take action.
Remember that for your child, this parenting gig is still relatively new. They may come to you and ask “what am I doing wrong?” or “how in the world did you do this?” Experience is invaluable. It makes any subsequent task much more manageable. When it comes to grandchildren, experience means having a grandparent who knows what to do and knows how to do it calmly and, many times, with a smile. And cookies, always with cookies.
My Oh My, How Things Have Changed
Your child’s parenting today is greatly impacted by the evolution and prevalence of technology. There is a fountain of information readily available within arms reach for any question or concern that a mom or dad may have about their child.
Have a basic medical concern? There’s probably a page to help answer it.
Need to know how to get a blueberry colored vomit stain out of your carpet? True story! There’s a forum out there that will be able to help lift that right out.
Not only does the modern mom and dad have the benefit of turning to their parents and friends like you did, they now have the entire world open to them to find answers to whatever they are looking for.
Today’s parents also have the benefit of social media. As a new mom, you may remember the feeling of isolation that can come in those first few weeks of a baby’s life.
It can be lonely and difficult to go without meaningful adult conversation for that length of time.
Now that we have Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and other social media platforms, this newborn induced isolation doesn’t have to be so challenging.
It can be a bit daunting to think about new technology and how it’s become a more prevalent part of our lives. There are all sorts of gadgets and gizmos now designed to make parenting that small bit simpler. Technology has even helped today’s parents keep their children safe. When life is busy and hectic, when things constantly feel like they are changing, that is when accidents are the most likely to happen.
This is why Ride Nanny was invented, to use technology to simplify and save lives. It’s not complicated, all you need to do is get in your car and the app does the rest by asking if your grandchild is with you. Click yes, and when you reach your destination you’ll receive a gentle reminder through your phone to make sure to take them out of the car with you.
Isn’t technology wonderful?
Grandparents are so incredibly important
Sure, there are a lot of things that are different between how you parent and the way your son or daughter does. No one would ever learn if we all did things the exact same way! No matter what, there is most certainly a special place for Grandma and Grandpa to be involved in the lives of their grandchildren.
“A child needs a grandparent, anybody’s grandparent, to grow a little more securely into an unfamiliar world.” – Charles and Ann Morse